Wrong to like somebody in a relationship?

[bloompyle]

Is it wrong to like somebody even if they're in a relationsip? There's this girl, and we were great friends. And this is going to sound cheesy but, I asked her what she'd say if I were to ask her out. And she told me she'd say no, because she doesn't date. I said, fair enough, but wanted to know if she had feelings, she said possibly...wtf does that mean? Anyway, 2 weeks later, after a 3 day weekend, her and my friend come back to school dating...I felt heart broken. She was the ONLY girl I have felt a romantic / personal attraction to. And that's not a feeling that just goes away. We're still good friends, and I wish the two a fruitful future together. But I was just wondering, is it wrong that I still like her? I mean, anybody who has 'fallen in love' can agree that love doesn't just disappear if the other person is with somebody else or something. It stays there......I don't know how to do a poll, so here are the answers to the 'poll'

1: Yes, it's wrong.
2: No, it's completely fine.
3: Undecided.

Please explain yourself with your answer.

 

[pullbangdead]

She's just not that into you, and didn't want to hurt your feelings. As far as real relationship advice, how old are you and she?

 

[daguin]

I feel your pain, but no matter what it feels like right now, it is not love. You will absolutely get over this. She was trying to let you down nicely. Accept that she liked you enough to try not to hurt you and look around for someone who likes to do the same kinds of things that you do. Don't worry about forever, you are not there yet

Peace,
dave

 

[pullbangdead]

I realize more and more every day that there's a Scrubs clip for every occasion...just used one yesterday for Niko and now here's another one.

 

[chipdouglas]

it's ok to like who ever you like. but in my opininon it is not ok to get in between a couple.. that is weasley...

but your posts don't really ask that. it seems as if you are asking if she likes you... which she doesn't and niether does your "friend".
there are better ppl out there for you. (i wish i could take my own advice)


michael

 

[rpaloalto]

All I can say is don't worry about it. You'll get over it, and her. For now it is OK to still like her. Your feelings aren't just going to cease over night. If you really like her and care about her, just be happy for her. You can still be her friend, right?
But don't dwell on it, or sit around waiting to see if things change. In all likely hood they wont, at least for you and her. Just move on with yourself there are plenty of great women out their

 

[rangedunits]

Id hit it.

anyone agree?

 

[bloompyle]

Id hit it.

anyone agree?

???

And no I'm not asking if she likes me, and yes we ARE still firends. But, she told me it was all accidental, she didn't mean to start liking him, it all started from her sleeping on his lap.

 

[rkcstr]

Hey man, don't let it get you down. I would focus your attention elsewhere, though. The fact is that she values the friendship she has with you enough so that she is doing her best to keep it going, even if that means not being entirely truthful with you. Not that I agree with the approach, but it appears in good intentions, anyway. As Dave said, she's trying to let you down easy and not flat out reject you.

My advice? Keep your friendship and seek a romantic relationship elsewhere. Believe us "elders", haha, we've gone through the tumultuous relationships of youth and lived to tell.

 

[Flaminpyro]

It would seem you have allready been given the best advice anyone could muster so I'll just say, Your feelings are true but she
dosn't feel the same as you so will have to get over them and you will it will just take some time !
There are many very nice women more than enough to go around I'm sure you will find the one thats for you if you just look :yh:
Heck summer is comming on head down to the beach and do some body surfing I'm sure you can mend that broken heart there :drool:


@ rangerunits LOL

 

[Rafa]

Here in Spain you'd be a "Pagafantas"!

Now seriously, stop loving her and look for someone else.

 

[chipdouglas]

bloom, you have been given great words, and advice. but in the end you have to do what ever makes you feel good... i have been single for over a year and havent hooked up once because i am trying to get my ex back. my bro and best friend make fun of me daily but in my heart it feels right.

also don't be a sucker!!!!!! you don't accidentally sleep on somebodies lap. waiting is cool, liking her is cool, even trying to break them up might be ok, but don't let "like, or lust" let you look dumb to your peers.


michael

 

[bobhaha]

This reminds me of a facebook group

'Dude she has a bf.' 'Yeah so, soccer has a goalie doesn't mean you cant score'

BTW I loled at this

she didn't mean to start liking him, it all started from her sleeping on his lap.

Maybe his got something your lacking...... :crackup:

Jk don't take it personally... just having a bit of fun

 

[DakotaDaNative]

Maybe he's got something your lacking......

lol nice i laughed pretty hard :beer:

yeah this seems like quite the predicament maybe just wait it out and be really nice and supportive. but then again im 16 and no romantic. i think the elders are right on this one.

 

[phoenix77]

All she can say is no. But you have to ask her to find out the answer..........rob

 

[bloompyle]

I'm 16 too, I just wish the best for them. I'd rather them bne happy together rather than a fighting couple. And even if they broke up, I wouldn't want to be the rebound, I'd want her to decide who she'd be with, I wouldn't go up to them the day after and ask ehr out. I also wouldn't break them up.

PS: You know that chick from the colgate wisp commercial? Where they're at a party and she goes to a corner or something to use it? I'd hit that...