Only one of your questions is rather "silly", which is about audience wearing goggles.
Have you ever seen proper laser safety goggles? Have you seen that the laser is invisible through them?
So how can you view a lasershow when you're not seeing anything?
Lasershows are having very powerful lasers inside, yes.
However, they are not always driven at maximum power, there is this thing called modulation. Basically, when beams are passing near the audience, power levels go very low, since angle of beam is very low and it's very visible.
Next, the beams are moving incredibly fast... it's just that you can't see it. So that one beam that appears there, is actually pulsed at some frequency.
Finally, beams themselves are not focused tightly, they are around 1-3 cm wide when they are near the audience. Combine that with low power, and you're pretty much safe.
On a more uhh... logical note, you see, lasershows are beautiful to behold and everything. A lot of people pay a lot of money to construct them and see them.
Do you think people would continue to visit them if they blind everybody in the room?
Events which cause some permanent damage to the audience tend to get very poor reputation and number of people visiting them
This is the first to come to mind on the subject:
Audience scanning - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
For more professional read, try visiting PhotonLexicon. Not sure but I think I saw something on that topic there.