Its obvious that BH wasn't trying to harm anyone, I have been in his shoes trying to do ANYTHING possible to get to someone before its too late, and I'm sorry if it sounds rude, but if that means someone will be out some money for a little while extra, then so be it because they can be refunded at ANY time, a sick relative may be leaving for good... In all honesty If I was the buyer, I would be more than happy that I was able to help him get to his relative, life and saying goodbye when that time comes is more important than getting money or product in a timely fashion... I've missed the chance to say goodbye before and that is something you regret for a lifetime unlike being late for payment or product.
bhwollen: You did what you had to, I'm sorry for the loss, don't feel like you've done wrong by any means. Concentrate on recovering as much you can...
-Dustin