I was pointed here a bit late, but it seems it worked for another one
Yes, they want you to pay VAT, but they are liars. I ordered a lot of items all over the world in the past months. Not only lasers and often got a letter from the customs telling me there is no bill, but on some parcels there was a bill sticking outside, so this was just a simple lie.
You must beat them with their own weapons. They want you to make a mistake by being honest to them.
In Germany lasers are allowed. Just importing them and using in public places is not allowed and the customs can be very tricky about this. For example asking you to turn it on. Once you turned it on, you used it in the customs office and so in a public place and then they got you.
By getting a laser as a gift you don´t import it! But german customs still want to see a bill about 0 Euro or a declaration it´s really a gift. They will ask you where from you know this guy and why is he sending you the gift.
Also, like said above you do not import a laser by getting it as a gift, but everything that is declared as a gift is automatically suspected to them and the chances are high they will keep the laser and send you such a letter about the bill being not there and wanting you to come and show them how much you really paid for it.
Therefore you must follow a few simple rules to get your laser.
1) Never say its a laser! but a flashlight.
2) Let the laser to be shipped in parts and without batteries.
3) Make two payments. One with lets say $10 and the other one with the rest.
4) Show them the Paypal transfer about the $10.
5) In case you get it declared as a gift, you either show them a declaration from the sender or a Bill about 0 Euro.
6) In case they want keep it, tell them you will get a lawyer because they are not forbidden, just importing them to sell them on the German marked is not allowed but it´s not forbidden for private usage.