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So , how many have been cheated on in a relationship they put their heart into?
I guess for me, out of the 5 more serious relationships, 3 involved cheating. In some of the cases I can see things weren't going great, but in at least one, it was very uncalled for, unexpected.
Maybe girls get their hearts broken and think guys are pigs early on, and just don't care anymore? I'm sure some aren't like that, I know a few who at least say they aren't. But damn, the amount that i've had is quite high, enough to take personally somewhat.
I'm getting over one now, that may or may not have involved cheating but still hard either way cause I'm the one getting dumped and found there was contact with other guys throughout (in at least a dating way, not sure if further and now, dont want to know).
It taught me to be careful about showing too much feeling and emotion early on; despite what she said, she acted a different more distant way. Usually I haven't felt that way so it was different. I showed concern about her distance and oops, should have let it go. Then again, i don't want someone who is seeking someone else "better", obviously.
Lol, a relationship thread on a laser forum, maybe i really am hopeless. But really curious as to what others have to say, us intelligent men might have good insight, or more bad experiences to share.
In my experience, there are things one can do to take the mind off the break-up/heartbreak/grief, such as movies or a tv show series on netflix to provide hours of mind-filling junk, reading and writing helps. Going out and doing things usually doesn't feel good the first few days or week for me... I tend to lack energy from it and just barely do what needs to be done like work or college and chores. Having a clean room can help. Chatting with other girls on a dating site eventually maybe, but it can be hard when you are getting over "one-itis". Perhaps talking with friends about it or some random internet stranger I occasionally do especially if i have some beers (which i try to avoid).
The magic healing number for me, during bad life events, loss of loved one , etc... although it might always be uncomfortable to think back on... is 3-6 weeks. For breakups, it tends to be 3 weeks to feel "OK" then maybe another few to be back to "normal". It doesn't get better day by day as some may be worse than others, but does on a week by week basis.
Share how you heal and deal.
I guess for me, out of the 5 more serious relationships, 3 involved cheating. In some of the cases I can see things weren't going great, but in at least one, it was very uncalled for, unexpected.
Maybe girls get their hearts broken and think guys are pigs early on, and just don't care anymore? I'm sure some aren't like that, I know a few who at least say they aren't. But damn, the amount that i've had is quite high, enough to take personally somewhat.
I'm getting over one now, that may or may not have involved cheating but still hard either way cause I'm the one getting dumped and found there was contact with other guys throughout (in at least a dating way, not sure if further and now, dont want to know).
It taught me to be careful about showing too much feeling and emotion early on; despite what she said, she acted a different more distant way. Usually I haven't felt that way so it was different. I showed concern about her distance and oops, should have let it go. Then again, i don't want someone who is seeking someone else "better", obviously.
Lol, a relationship thread on a laser forum, maybe i really am hopeless. But really curious as to what others have to say, us intelligent men might have good insight, or more bad experiences to share.
In my experience, there are things one can do to take the mind off the break-up/heartbreak/grief, such as movies or a tv show series on netflix to provide hours of mind-filling junk, reading and writing helps. Going out and doing things usually doesn't feel good the first few days or week for me... I tend to lack energy from it and just barely do what needs to be done like work or college and chores. Having a clean room can help. Chatting with other girls on a dating site eventually maybe, but it can be hard when you are getting over "one-itis". Perhaps talking with friends about it or some random internet stranger I occasionally do especially if i have some beers (which i try to avoid).
The magic healing number for me, during bad life events, loss of loved one , etc... although it might always be uncomfortable to think back on... is 3-6 weeks. For breakups, it tends to be 3 weeks to feel "OK" then maybe another few to be back to "normal". It doesn't get better day by day as some may be worse than others, but does on a week by week basis.
Share how you heal and deal.
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