405nm is not really possible to figure out - it depends on the particles in the air, the surface the dot is on, your eyes and how dark it is.
According to most graphs, blu-ray should basically be invisible, but in several cases it will actually appear more visible than both 660nm and 650nm red at the same outputs. The flourescense really messes with your eyes - for example a blu-ray beam will seem as wide as a baseball bat after a few metres while the beam itself is actually still very thin.
I have made a small RGV spiro setup and a PHR at about 92mA matched a 5mW greenie pretty well.
Seb