is it okay if i use a 1.4A 3.7v 18500 battery for the 1w laser? the driver requires 1.6A to put out 1.1A
Well, no that's not okay, because batteries don't have an amperage. It is nonsensical to say that you have a "1.4A battery". You might have a 1.4 Ah battery (or more frequently called a 1400mAh battery), which implies that it has a capacity of 1400mAh. You may also have a battery that is capable of supplying 1.4A. But then it is equally capable of supplying 0.8A, or 1.1A, and maybe 1.9A, etc. So it won't be labelled "1.4A". Capacity vs Current. They are two very different things.
Figure out what CURRENT your battery is able to safely provide. Do this by multiplying your mAh figure by the C rate of your cell. THEN you know if your battery can provide the correct amperage. So, 1400mAh in a 1C cell, cannot provide 1.6A of output. But 900mAh from a 2C cell can.
based on the price of the driver I would assume that it is a linear or buck driver. I have never used this driver but I know sites like o-like sell it. Maybe one of the VETs that has used it could chime in and provide some extra info on it.
You can tell it's neither a Buck nor a Linear from the fact that the input voltage is lower than the output voltage. The only thing that it can be is a Boost driver.
my diode just blew out, and i dont know why... It was heatsinked and everything, but for some reason it just went dim and never went bright again... my setup was an lm317 regulator with 1ohm resistor and a 9volt battery. Any ideas what went wrong?
It's probably not blown. A 9v battery can often only supply < 100mA. It doesn't matter that you set your 317 setup to 1.25 A, there is simply no way your driver can provide that from such a poor power source. That 100mA (or potentially even less, seriously, 9V batteries are garbage), might just be below the lasing threshold. Maybe the battery was able to supple "just enough" current to get above lasing, for a very short period of time.
Get real batteries, and give it another shot. You might be in for a pleasant surprise.