Don't bother with the ir filter. It's just going to rob you of about 5% of your power and the ir that makes it out of the laser is a non-issue. The green is what you need to worry about. As far as looking at the dot, sunglasses are better than nothing but they are not protection from direct hits, so don't get comfortable with them. I understand the whole expanded pupil thing but I still think it's kind of a ridiculous theory. If it were more dangerous to wear sunglasses then our eyes would fry when we step out into the sun with them on. However a larger pupil does increase the eye's viewing surface area, which allows a slightly larger area for a beam to enter, making it a fraction of a percent more likely that you will get hit in the eye. Most people look at the pupil theory not as a function of surface area for a beam to enter, but that scattered light will do more damage because the pupil is expanded, which is just not the case.
Bottom line is that you should get a pair of safety glasses, don't skimp when it comes to your eyes.