edit: I found out I was overreacting and upset when I wrote this but it was great for me to deal with the situation and I am sooo grateful I was able to do so. The part in bold is still valid if you make sure the person cares about you too. Things are already starting to get good. I'm pretty sure she is with somebody else now and anger is easier to deal with than sadness, for me. I decided that she hasn't cared for some time and she's a skankopotamus, pardon my language. I'm looking forward to pretty much everything, except the time between now and her leaving my house! I plan to become a better person starting now
I am not posting this thread for pity and please don't say anything negative because i'm having a rough time. Actually nothing need be posted, It's just getting it off my chest and I appreciate the ability to do so, Thanks.
I just want to remind everyone that if you have someone you care about: let them know every day that they are important to you. Dont sweat the small stuff, life is short no one is perfect, appreciate who someone is. And don't bring people down even if you are, be happy for people when they are and they will want to make you happy when you're not.
It's probably better if you don't read the rest. It's just sad and whiny. I bought a house last fall with my girlfriend of almost 3 years because I knew I wanted to be with her forever. It's a dump foreclosure for $65,000 that needed/needs everything fixed. I'd selfishly been waiting to propose because i wanted to get her to be more fucussed on us. She's very bubbly and free-spirited and just does what makes her happy in life which amounted to her sometimes doing things instead of coming home to me which made me jealous. I've been stressed about the house and my job is seasonal meaning I'm broke in the winter. subsequently I've been in an 5-6 month sad pessimistic rut, last winter too but not as bad. Little things make me happy like friends, my girlfriend(ex), working on my cars/ motorcycle and of course building lasers. I had everybody over on saturday and my girlfriend worked a close so she was home at 10 and was distant, hung out with me for 1/2 hour and went in. I gave her some time before checking on her and she just said she was going to bed. Wouldn't talk to me at all. The next morning when we woke up I tried to hug and talk to her and she said she wasn't happy anymore but I held her and said everything would be ok, and that I would make it better. We went to brunch with my mom and grandparents and I paid extra attention to her and tried to cheer her up to no avail, she told me it was over when we got back. The problem amounted to I told her too often things I didn't like, Stupid stuff like driving habits and and saying um and like too much. Also that I've been depressed for a long time. I've been counting the days to summer so I can start making money. I just started treatment for my bad skin that also gets me down and makes me self conscious. And I have a job change to go through this fall. All of which will get my life back on track and let me start thinking positive and focus on the future. I started running again as it's warm now, and frisbee golf (i have some pot-head friends). I will be seeing a lot more of my friends. I am not going to drink for 6 months minimum.She never told me when I said something bad or did something wrong, it just slowly built up until she didn't want me anymore. I really think that things would have turned around very shortly but she had enough. There's another guy too, a co-worker, it seems that she's just using him as a tow rope to pull herself out though, but still. He likes her but it doesn't seem like she's interested, just playing along for the confidence boost to leave me. We have some mutual friends and they see it the same. I took $5000 cash out to buy her a ring about 3-4weeks ago, but she left me at a friends house the weekend after so I decided to wait a little longer. I wrote this merely as therepy for myself and I do feel better. I'm sorry if I shouldn't have
I am not posting this thread for pity and please don't say anything negative because i'm having a rough time. Actually nothing need be posted, It's just getting it off my chest and I appreciate the ability to do so, Thanks.
I just want to remind everyone that if you have someone you care about: let them know every day that they are important to you. Dont sweat the small stuff, life is short no one is perfect, appreciate who someone is. And don't bring people down even if you are, be happy for people when they are and they will want to make you happy when you're not.
It's probably better if you don't read the rest. It's just sad and whiny. I bought a house last fall with my girlfriend of almost 3 years because I knew I wanted to be with her forever. It's a dump foreclosure for $65,000 that needed/needs everything fixed. I'd selfishly been waiting to propose because i wanted to get her to be more fucussed on us. She's very bubbly and free-spirited and just does what makes her happy in life which amounted to her sometimes doing things instead of coming home to me which made me jealous. I've been stressed about the house and my job is seasonal meaning I'm broke in the winter. subsequently I've been in an 5-6 month sad pessimistic rut, last winter too but not as bad. Little things make me happy like friends, my girlfriend(ex), working on my cars/ motorcycle and of course building lasers. I had everybody over on saturday and my girlfriend worked a close so she was home at 10 and was distant, hung out with me for 1/2 hour and went in. I gave her some time before checking on her and she just said she was going to bed. Wouldn't talk to me at all. The next morning when we woke up I tried to hug and talk to her and she said she wasn't happy anymore but I held her and said everything would be ok, and that I would make it better. We went to brunch with my mom and grandparents and I paid extra attention to her and tried to cheer her up to no avail, she told me it was over when we got back. The problem amounted to I told her too often things I didn't like, Stupid stuff like driving habits and and saying um and like too much. Also that I've been depressed for a long time. I've been counting the days to summer so I can start making money. I just started treatment for my bad skin that also gets me down and makes me self conscious. And I have a job change to go through this fall. All of which will get my life back on track and let me start thinking positive and focus on the future. I started running again as it's warm now, and frisbee golf (i have some pot-head friends). I will be seeing a lot more of my friends. I am not going to drink for 6 months minimum.She never told me when I said something bad or did something wrong, it just slowly built up until she didn't want me anymore. I really think that things would have turned around very shortly but she had enough. There's another guy too, a co-worker, it seems that she's just using him as a tow rope to pull herself out though, but still. He likes her but it doesn't seem like she's interested, just playing along for the confidence boost to leave me. We have some mutual friends and they see it the same. I took $5000 cash out to buy her a ring about 3-4weeks ago, but she left me at a friends house the weekend after so I decided to wait a little longer. I wrote this merely as therepy for myself and I do feel better. I'm sorry if I shouldn't have
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